Advice for day 84: Until you are 25 believe in Happily Ever After

I have been obsessed with Halmart Christmas movies for the last few weeks. It is ridiculously considering i know how they end; the cynical journalist finds optimism in a small-town lover, the divorced skeptic finds joy with the Joe the Average Plumber on Christmas Eve, the jaded novelist finds simplistic inspirations from the humble waitress. Perfect Endings to Perfect Delusions.

Yet as I move to Chicago, I think these delusions might be what we need to move forward in life. These idealistic images of what life could hold for us is what we need to imagine in order to take the insane risks life requests of us.

As I talk to my grandma tonight of life and she tells me tales of actual true life stories she never "should of lived through" and i realize she never would of lived through them unless she had the insane confidence of youth and zero foresight.

And that is the beauty I have on this Christmas Eve. I have the idealistic memory of all that laid before me: Santa Clause bringing bikes and eating half of homemade cookies, singing off key carols in a 19th century church, eating cookies til my stomach hurts and then eating one more; as well as the idealistic vision of what lay before me: bringing charming a 2 1/2 children filled family to my sig. other's family farm in Utah, getting my own column based on my distinct realistically optimistic voice, having the forever and ever kiss under strategically placed mistletoe.

Until we are 25 it is important...no i would say vital...to hold onto the idealism that springs entrepreneurship , inspires novels and launches dreams. It is important to not think the Hallmark story really happen to XYz actress, but to believe it could happen to you. It is important to think your dreams aren't crazy or reckless or insane but exciting and youthful and exactly what you need.

Tonight, as in every Christmas night that involves one too many or one too less Bailey's on ice, my grandma gave me valuable advice i heed listen to:

"You can't just go with the flow; you have to make decisons. I don't' know if they are the right decisions but you have to make them," says Gma J.

Tonight, as in every Christmas night that I admit involves at least 2 too many Bailey's, I know my life lay within her advice but beyond this night, this town, and whatever destiny anyone could think up for me.

Tonight makes a decision knowing it doesn't matter if it was the right decision or not; knowing making a decision is all the right needed.

Tonight accepts life will be no Hallmark story and bets it will be better.

Advice for Day 83 To All The Single Ladies

I hope this goes without saying but never follow the advice of a Beyonce song. There is no deep wisdom somewhere between the repetition of the line "If you liked it then you should of put a ring on it."

If you want a ring, buy it yourself and put it on your own god damn finger instead of waiting for the seal of approval that is a wedding ring.

And for that matter all you single ladies and all you other ladies as well should apparently start acting like boys; because according to Beyonce "If I were I boy...I'd put myself first and make the rules as i go."

Beyonce has way too big of balls to not do that as a woman. You don't need to be a man to make your own rules and put yourself first.

FYI: Kevin this is not a feminist rant.